Nardeen Saeed, 14, chats with friends on her iPhone in her bedroom. Younger refugees learn the language, adapt to American culture and integrate into their new community quite rapidly. Often they must take on the role of being responsible for their parents or grand parents who struggle with the language and have a harder time learning how things function in American society. Tensions also arise within families between the younger generation who quickly embrace American social norms and older generations who remain attached to more traditional Iraqi customs. El Cajon, CA, USA. 07/05/2013.